Tuesday, July 9, 2013

My Mommy "ME" time

"We can only raise truly happy children when we ourselves are truly happy." - Mylene Dizon

Hi Everyone!

People say that when one becomes a mother her life is no longer her own. You know, I think it's true. However, I also believe that even if I have given a large chunk of myself to my daughter and my husband, I am still ME. And amidst the daily responsibilities and worries, I constantly have to remind myself of that.

I am sure if you're a mom you know what I mean. As mothers, we are known for giving so much of ourselves to our family that we often forget that we have a life, that we are still an individual. I remember last time when I had the chance to meet Carrie Lupoli, a parenting expert, Mommy Vance of Purple Plum Fairy asked her about the importance of "me" time. Carrie said that "me" time is very important for us mothers. 

next stop: crazy town
There are some days I wish I can sit in a cafe -alone- doing nothing but drink my venti mocha frappe. Sometimes after a week of being home, I feel some red flags start showing up, warning me na isang tambling na lang and I'm in Crazy Town.

What are those red flags? Crankiness and sadness. Whenever I start being angry at the smallest things and start picking a fight with my husband or when I suddenly start feeling sad, I take it as a sign that I must get out of the house and do something else.

But the moment I start redeeming my "me" time coupon (which actually happens once a month), I immediately feel guilty about it. Separation anxiety, you think? 

But then I have to remind my self that I NEED my "me" time or else I am going mental on everyone else. Now we don't want that, do we? So what do I do? I ask someone to look after Yomi (sometimes my sister or mother if my husband is not around) and I go out. I put on something nice and put make up on (saan ko pa ba magagamit ang sangkatutak kong lipstick kung hindi pa ako magaayos tuwing lalabas ako diba?) and I go to the mall.

For me, going to the mall by myself is my ultimate "me" time. I used to do that when I was single and it has been my form of relaxation. I window shop, hover around make up aisles, check out what's new, and swatch everything that interests me. Two or three hours is enough to bring me back to sanity and to make me feel brand new. When I go home I feel refreshed and relaxed. No more crankiness or sadness. 

It's not bad to be good to ourselves sometimes. No one can work round the clock whether you're a mom, a dad or even a student. Taking some "Me" time doesn't mean we are selfish. It simply means that we are human and we want give our loved ones our best by being in our best selves. It is very important not to lose sight of who we are before we had kids and be able to find that balance between being a mom, a wife, and a woman.  After all, a happy wife (in my case a happy mom) is a happy life.

What are your favorite "me" time activities?

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  1. we all need our "me" time. i used to do the same in cafes - before it became tambayan ng mga estudyante... i treasure quiet and peaceful breaks within the day to refresh me especially before I go home and meet the family. para happy happy.

    always stay positive and lovely Mommy Monika! :)

    1. Korek ka jan Tin. We all need our "me" time. Minsan ang sarap lang kasi mapagisa kahit 1 or 2 hours lang. Thanks Tin! See you around! :)

  2. This post made a big punch on my face. I haven't had a me time since like forever! I don't have someone to leave my children to so tiis ganda ang peg ko. And yes I become a monster mom when I lack me time. But I take a lot of control talaga. The mall makes me uplifted also because it was my form of exercise when I was pregnant with my first born. So imagine me now mall deprived too ignoramus already kung anu meron sa mall. Sigh. Buti na lang meron internet connection at least nakakapag blog ako ang I get to meet mommy bloggers who share same woes with me.

    1. Naku Serene I hope you get to have your "me" time din. Anyway minsan yung surfing the net and chatting with friends malaking bagay na din yun para maka relax. :)

  3. Me time is definitely a must for any mom, just so we are sure to stay sane and fully functioning! I love just sitting in a coffee shop with a nice latte, a yummy pastry and a book. I've not done that in a loooooong time!

    Even small pockets of personal time during the day are good. For me, it usually comes when I cook early in the morning and everyone's still sleeping. It's nice and therapeutic. :)

    xo Patty

    1. True. Hindi naman kailangann whole day kasi ako hindi ko din kaya mahiwalay kay baby ng matagal. So a couple of hours is enough for me. It's a nice idea for a "me" time yung early in the morning. :)

  4. My favorite ME time is shopping! Oh my, meron pa bang iba? Basta going to the mall, bargain-hunting or kahit window shopping lang muna. Haha.

    1. Heheh! Iba talga nagagawa ng mall at shopping. retail therapy really helps! :)