I know how the daily tasks can make us very tired and irritable. With everything that's going on, we could easily lose our temper that even a child's faintest cry can make us snap. I understand this perfectly, even as a stay-at-home-mom I get tired too at the end of the day. But no matter how exhausted I am, I exert extra effort to control myself when Yomi starts crying and acting up. I walk away when I know I am losing my temper because I don't want to hurt her out of anger. I am afraid of what I might do to her.
Some adults, unfortunately, cannot control their anger especially when dealing with children. Just like what my siblings and I witnessed tonight.
We often hear our new neighbors scream and shout at one another. I don't know if it's out of anger or excitement. We just know that they are a very loud bunch. But tonight was different.
My brother was tinkering with his toys in the backyard terrace when he heard a crying child about 3 years old being scolded by a woman. Normally, we would ignore this because we thought it was ordinary to them. My brother suddenly went inside the house saying that he heard a loud thud from the neighbors and suspected that the woman might have hit the child's head on the concrete floor. My sisters and I quickly ran outside to see what was going on. From the terrace, we saw through our neighbors window (it was just a few meters away) the woman continuously scolding the child. She was saying a lot of things to the boy and she sounds very angry. We could not really tell if she was hitting the boy but we can hear things falling on the floor. Thinking that it was nothing, I went inside.
Suddenly my brother went inside and said, "Naku! Nabagok yata yung bata." That's when I hurriedly went outside again. There I saw a woman holding the child with her hand on the boy's head and shaking him to wake him up. She then passed him to another woman who also seems to be in panic and she vigorously shook the boy but he wouldn't wake up. That's when we screamed, "Dalhin niyo na sa ospital yung bata." but they just ignored us and kept on trying to wake him up. I was shaking in fear for the safety of the little boy. It was like a scene out of a movie. When I couldn't bear watching, I went inside and looked for our barangay hall's phone number. I was already crying and shaking. My brother and husband went inside and decided they'd report the incident to the barangay hall. My sister said that he might have woken up because she already heard the boy cry. Our barangay officials took my brother's statement but said that they could not interfere because the residence is private.
We didn't get to report them to Bantay Bata because we were also afraid for our safety. We do not know them and how they would react to our "meddling". But if this sort of thing happens again, we will surely dial 163.
I felt a little traumatized by what I saw. I felt fear and pity for the boy. I hope and pray he is fine. As for the woman, I don't want to judge her but I do hope she thinks a hundred times before she raises her voice and hands to that little boy again.
Are you against corporal punishment? What do you think we should have done? Should we have meddled or left them alone?
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